Sex & Success in Business

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[00:00] SPEAKER_02: Welcome to Countless Podcast.
[00:06] SPEAKER_02: Ladies and gentlemen, I'm taking a huge breath right now, huge breath because I'm going
[00:14] SPEAKER_02: to take you on a journey.
[00:15] SPEAKER_02: No, actually my guest and I are going to take you on a journey.
[00:19] SPEAKER_02: You know, I live by a very simple philosophy in life.
[00:25] SPEAKER_02: And what this conversation is going to be about today is centered around as it relates to
[00:30] SPEAKER_02: business first and then personal second.
[00:34] SPEAKER_02: But you win at the game of life and you limit the game of business when you're saying
[00:38] SPEAKER_02: when everybody else is saying, and those of you that are leaning in, they're going to say,
[00:42] SPEAKER_02: oh, yeah, here he goes again, talking about that.
[00:45] SPEAKER_02: But I owe it to you as a listener on this podcast to make sure that they continue to bring
[00:51] SPEAKER_02: you those stories, those business stories of success, business stories of doing things
[00:56] SPEAKER_02: differently.
[00:57] SPEAKER_02: The business stories are based on a simple philosophy of building an organization that is based
[01:02] SPEAKER_02: on identifying any and then making sure that need is being dealt with.
[01:07] SPEAKER_02: And well, I'm just, I mean, I can keep our red one on about this man.
[01:11] SPEAKER_02: But the cool of us is our guest today and I know him as Nick is really good at this
[01:19] SPEAKER_02: and that like what's going on.
[01:20] SPEAKER_02: But here's what I can tell you.
[01:23] SPEAKER_02: There's been a constant theme of entrepreneurship in his veins in the way that he approaches
[01:26] SPEAKER_02: life and the way that he analyzes opportunities.
[01:30] SPEAKER_02: And the person who is who I want to really bring into this conversation today and then lead
[01:37] SPEAKER_02: into how that's evolved into ultimately what he's doing right now.
[01:43] SPEAKER_02: So first of all, Nick, what's going on with Nakula Dast, man?
[01:48] SPEAKER_02: I need to make the rare wrap.
[01:50] SPEAKER_02: The guy that was nearly going to go broke 20 years ago and say, I'm like, it's a successful
[01:55] SPEAKER_02: star.
[01:56] SPEAKER_02: What's going on with your journey of life, dude?
[01:58] SPEAKER_02: Talk to me about that.
[01:59] SPEAKER_02: Oh, by the way, Nick and his and his lovely girl Sarah are based at a St. John New Brunswick,
[02:04] SPEAKER_02: my hometown.
[02:06] SPEAKER_02: And so that's the Atlanta Canadian peace.
[02:08] SPEAKER_02: So already use their what's going on.
[02:10] SPEAKER_00: Yes, sure.
[02:11] SPEAKER_00: Thanks.
[02:11] SPEAKER_00: Well, first of all, thanks so much for the opportunity to be here.
[02:14] SPEAKER_00: And yeah, depending how you know me, either know me as Nakula Dast or Nicholas Pereira.
[02:20] SPEAKER_00: And a lot of people in the Land of Canada are going to know me because I'm also politically
[02:25] SPEAKER_00: involved in, you know, those two worlds of crossed in my world and somebody were like,
[02:29] SPEAKER_00: why, who is this guy?
[02:30] SPEAKER_00: Why does he have two names?
[02:32] SPEAKER_00: Why does, who is he really?
[02:34] SPEAKER_00: And so just the quick, the quick reply is this.
[02:37] SPEAKER_00: Nikolas Pereira is my name.
[02:39] SPEAKER_00: It's the name that my parents gave me and it would be my government name.
[02:42] SPEAKER_00: Nikola Dast is a spiritual name that I was given by the walking monk who is a Swami or
[02:49] SPEAKER_00: spiritual master within the Hare Krishna community and spiritual way of life.
[02:53] SPEAKER_00: And so I used the Nikola Dast name to promote my business or to talk about the practices
[03:00] SPEAKER_00: of sex transmutation because it has someone has a spiritual mystical kind of tone when
[03:06] SPEAKER_00: we talk about sex transmutation and how sex and success are all related.
[03:10] SPEAKER_00: So I got two names.
[03:12] SPEAKER_00: I got Nicholas Pereira, I got Nakula Dast.
[03:14] SPEAKER_00: Most people call me Nik once they get to know me and I'm perfectly fine with trust me.
[03:18] SPEAKER_00: I haven't called so many.
[03:19] SPEAKER_00: Once you get involved with politics and you talk about semen openly, people call you all
[03:24] SPEAKER_00: kinds of names.
[03:25] SPEAKER_00: So I don't really care anymore.
[03:27] SPEAKER_02: You know what?
[03:28] SPEAKER_02: We're curious what you're doing.
[03:29] SPEAKER_02: You're my brother.
[03:29] SPEAKER_02: I'm going to appreciate it.
[03:32] SPEAKER_02: So Nick, I'm going to go by Nick.
[03:35] SPEAKER_02: You know, one of the things we were talking about when we were beginning our conversation
[03:38] SPEAKER_02: today is the whole conversation around sex and success.
[03:42] SPEAKER_02: And most people would kind of just go, okay, what are they going to get into?
[03:45] SPEAKER_02: But I'm going to challenge each one of you as a listener that actually this conversation
[03:49] SPEAKER_02: that we're going to get into is a topic that is in chapter 11 of a worldwide, like festival
[03:59] SPEAKER_02: book called Thinking Grow Rich as anybody ever heard of that book before.
[04:03] SPEAKER_02: And what's interesting is that people flirted around that conversation from chapter 11.
[04:09] SPEAKER_02: They kind of flirted over what's that all mean.
[04:12] SPEAKER_02: So Nick, can we start in that arena and that conversation as to what was what was what
[04:20] SPEAKER_02: was Napoleon Hill saying in chapter 11 that was so relevant between sex and success.
[04:27] SPEAKER_02: And then we're going to get the other questions as to how you're building the business around
[04:31] SPEAKER_02: it because you are definitely zagging men for all the right reasons.
[04:35] SPEAKER_02: So can we start in that direction?
[04:36] SPEAKER_00: Yeah, man.
[04:37] SPEAKER_00: So sex and success.
[04:39] SPEAKER_00: So I got introduced to this idea, chapter 11 of Thinking Grow Rich is called the mysteries
[04:43] SPEAKER_00: of sex transmutation.
[04:45] SPEAKER_00: It sounds all mystical.
[04:47] SPEAKER_00: And there is like kind of like a definitely, let's say an energy aspect to this.
[04:52] SPEAKER_00: And basically, the long story short is that Napoleon Hill says that if a man
[04:58] SPEAKER_00: does not learn to transmute his sexual energy or does not know how to practice the art of
[05:04] SPEAKER_00: sexual transmutation, then essentially he can never really gain success because ultimately,
[05:10] SPEAKER_00: he'll never develop the enough willpower focus and the ultimate energy that's needed to take
[05:17] SPEAKER_00: yourself to those higher levels of success.
[05:21] SPEAKER_00: Now, when I read it first, like you said, most people dance over it.
[05:25] SPEAKER_00: I did because I was like, okay, you know, I get it, right?
[05:28] SPEAKER_00: Like kind of I get it.
[05:29] SPEAKER_00: Okay, our cool.
[05:31] SPEAKER_00: All right, I can't just have that make sense, but never really got into it in depth until
[05:36] SPEAKER_00: later on in my life when I really started studying personal development.
[05:40] SPEAKER_00: What motivation?
[05:41] SPEAKER_00: Like real motivation, not just like raw, raw motivation, but actual biological motivation.
[05:48] SPEAKER_00: What makes you tick?
[05:50] SPEAKER_00: What makes human beings go?
[05:52] SPEAKER_00: And what makes one person successful and another person not successful?
[05:58] SPEAKER_00: And this whole topic of sex came back up and raised someone expresses their sexual
[06:04] SPEAKER_00: urges and energy in how sex and psychology go hand in hand.
[06:09] SPEAKER_00: You can't separate the two.
[06:11] SPEAKER_00: So in Napoleon Hill, he brings up this concept of sex transmutation,
[06:15] SPEAKER_00: this ability to use sexual energy as a way to attract and create and ultimately build
[06:22] SPEAKER_00: and get your riches.
[06:24] SPEAKER_00: Build your business, be successful from a financial perspective.
[06:27] SPEAKER_00: The concept though has a deeper, a deeper route from many different spiritual practices around
[06:35] SPEAKER_00: the world where the idea of transmuting sexual energy directly impacts how we evolve
[06:43] SPEAKER_00: and how we can think and our masculinity, especially as men.
[06:47] SPEAKER_00: Now, why specifically work with men?
[06:49] SPEAKER_00: But the conversation of sex and success is equally as fair to men.
[06:55] SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I love that you represent point because entrepreneurship is both genders.
[07:02] SPEAKER_02: And I noticed that Napoleon hammered a nut specifically reference of male figure over a female
[07:07] SPEAKER_02: figure. So I'm glad you brought that up point up in the conversation.
[07:09] SPEAKER_02: So back to you, dude.
[07:11] SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
[07:12] SPEAKER_00: Now, there's, there is like, you know, and I know talking about men and women roles is like
[07:17] SPEAKER_00: super like, you know, sensitive these days.
[07:21] SPEAKER_00: But the reality is that there are differences between men and women and one of the main differences.
[07:27] Speaker UNKNOWN: Whoa, whoa, whoa.
[07:28] SPEAKER_01: Whoa.
[07:29] SPEAKER_02: Do you heard it first year ladies and gentlemen?
[07:34] SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
[07:34] SPEAKER_02: Oh my goodness.
[07:35] SPEAKER_00: I said it.
[07:36] SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
[07:36] SPEAKER_00: Like, oh my god.
[07:38] SPEAKER_00: There's a difference.
[07:39] SPEAKER_00: And this is no words.
[07:42] SPEAKER_00: And it's really like it just like just had a simple level and it's not meant to be political
[07:47] SPEAKER_00: or controversial.
[07:48] SPEAKER_00: It's just reality.
[07:50] SPEAKER_00: Men, right?
[07:51] SPEAKER_00: We have testosterone as sort of women, but we have higher levels of testosterone.
[07:56] SPEAKER_00: And ultimately, we are the seed bearer.
[07:58] SPEAKER_00: So our sexual, our sexual organs are different.
[08:02] SPEAKER_00: And therefore, our psychology is different.
[08:05] SPEAKER_00: And this is again comes back to for why it is a business owner.
[08:07] SPEAKER_00: Why don't I have this conversation?
[08:09] SPEAKER_00: Because when you understand your own sexual psychology,
[08:13] SPEAKER_00: your own sexual urges, both the deepest, darkest reasons you have and the fantasies and all of that,
[08:21] SPEAKER_00: right?
[08:22] SPEAKER_00: To the spiritual aspects, the energetic aspects,
[08:25] SPEAKER_00: how sex is transmuted in the body and used to fuel your motivation and your desires.
[08:32] SPEAKER_00: And even why do you want to have a big business with lots of money?
[08:36] SPEAKER_00: Because there's an ultimate power there and sex and power and success,
[08:40] SPEAKER_00: I'll go hand in hand.
[08:41] SPEAKER_00: So once you start to draw these links, what Napoleon Hill was alluding to was that once you can
[08:48] SPEAKER_00: control your sexual drive better and better and you can ultimately use all of that energy,
[08:56] SPEAKER_00: all of that drive towards your business, then you will become highly motivated.
[09:02] SPEAKER_00: You will become clear of mind.
[09:04] SPEAKER_00: You won't be distracted by the millions of different ways that the world has
[09:08] SPEAKER_00: learned to distract you because the ultimate distraction is sex in a way.
[09:13] SPEAKER_00: So,
[09:14] SPEAKER_02: So, to look at the start of the pause,
[09:17] SPEAKER_02: what do you mean by control your sexual desire?
[09:19] SPEAKER_02: I mean, because that's part of who we are is individual, not just entrepreneurs.
[09:24] SPEAKER_02: What do you mean by the more you can control it?
[09:27] SPEAKER_02: Because you're not going to eliminate it, dude.
[09:30] SPEAKER_02: That's how we make kids, right?
[09:31] SPEAKER_02: That's right.
[09:32] SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
[09:33] SPEAKER_02: So, what you need when you should believe me,
[09:35] SPEAKER_00: yeah, believe me, rivers like, you know, and this is like saying this in all respect,
[09:38] SPEAKER_00: believe me Sarah would be happy of saying it, or she leaves laugh.
[09:42] SPEAKER_00: I would just be happy because she leaves laugh.
[09:44] SPEAKER_00: My wife is hot.
[09:45] SPEAKER_00: I am not giving up sex anytime soon.
[09:50] SPEAKER_00: So, it's not about giving up sex.
[09:53] SPEAKER_00: What it is is about expressing sexuality in a conscious way or in a more natural way.
[09:58] SPEAKER_00: So, let's first of all talk about what is an unnatural way
[10:02] SPEAKER_00: so that we could define maybe what I mean by a natural way.
[10:06] SPEAKER_02: Pornography, and I want to keep the lineage going here.
[10:09] SPEAKER_02: What is an unnatural way, specifically as it could be, had a negative impact on the success of
[10:16] SPEAKER_00: your business? Can we keep in that team?
[10:18] SPEAKER_00: 100%.
[10:19] SPEAKER_00: So, pornography is an unnatural way to express your sexual desire or try to fulfill your sexual desire.
[10:26] SPEAKER_00: Pornography is an highly addictive substance.
[10:32] SPEAKER_00: I'm going to call it a substance.
[10:33] SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, sure.
[10:34] SPEAKER_00: It reacts and acts the same way as sugar, alcohol, and any other drug.
[10:40] SPEAKER_00: In fact, there are studies that show that excessive pornography watching has tremendous
[10:46] SPEAKER_00: impacts, negative impacts on your brain, and your prefrontal cortex, so specifically your
[10:51] SPEAKER_00: ability to make good, long-term decisions and keep you away from vices.
[10:58] SPEAKER_00: The biggest challenge business owners have is focus.
[11:06] SPEAKER_00: If you are now being, now add pornography into the mix, add all kinds of other drugs and alcohol
[11:14] SPEAKER_00: in the million ways in which we falsely stimulate ourselves or unnaturally stimulate ourselves,
[11:19] SPEAKER_00: then what this does is it steals your focus and it also steals your energy.
[11:24] SPEAKER_00: Now, what I mean by your energy is this.
[11:26] SPEAKER_00: Our basic instinct is to have sex.
[11:30] SPEAKER_00: All of our activities have an undertone of sexual motivation, meaning I'm going to give you
[11:35] SPEAKER_00: this from a man's side, okay?
[11:37] SPEAKER_00: Okay, because I know that's very interesting.
[11:39] Speaker UNKNOWN: 
[11:39] SPEAKER_00: That's from my expertise.
[11:40] SPEAKER_00: So, from the male perspective, our basic instinct is to provide and protect.
[11:47] SPEAKER_00: When we provide and protect, we also show the world around us in our community and potential
[11:53] SPEAKER_00: sexual partners that we are good men.
[11:56] SPEAKER_00: We are doing our duty.
[11:59] SPEAKER_00: What it does is meaning this is why money, fame, power, status, it all helps us essentially
[12:06] SPEAKER_00: get laid.
[12:07] SPEAKER_00: Because to the feminine energy, or is that, wow, that is masculine energy, a provider,
[12:16] SPEAKER_00: a protector, someone who shows that he can take care of.
[12:20] SPEAKER_00: And in today's world, having money, having power, having status, having fame,
[12:25] SPEAKER_00: is all alluding subconsciously to this specific attraction.
[12:31] SPEAKER_00: Now, when you understand this and know this, you start to recognize why you want to do what you
[12:37] SPEAKER_00: want to do, which also then takes shifts to, is that a smart way of doing it?
[12:43] SPEAKER_00: Is it necessary?
[12:45] SPEAKER_00: And so, what we mean by controlling your sexual energy is by first understanding why sex
[12:51] SPEAKER_00: motivates you to be successful.
[12:54] SPEAKER_00: It's why you also see that highly successful people generally have a high sex drive.
[13:01] SPEAKER_00: Napoleon Hill states this in Fengarich, he actually states that there is no successful business
[13:07] SPEAKER_00: person, leader, inventor, artist who does not lack in sexual drive or passion.
[13:13] SPEAKER_00: Passion is a symptom or a manifestation of someone's sexual energy or drive.
[13:21] SPEAKER_00: Here is why a powerful man, especially, want to learn the artist's trans mutation,
[13:26] SPEAKER_00: Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, let's give a few examples, Arnold Schwarzenegger,
[13:32] SPEAKER_00: all got themselves in trouble and totally diminished their successes and their lives,
[13:39] SPEAKER_00: or at least had to go through tough times to get a track because they were unable to redirect
[13:45] SPEAKER_00: their sexual urges and passions and express it inside of a committed relationship.
[13:51] SPEAKER_00: And weren't able to get sexually satisfied.
[13:55] SPEAKER_00: When you are unable to get sexually satisfied, you will begin to look for other ways to
[14:02] SPEAKER_00: sexually satisfy yourself. Hence, a lot of powerful men will either cheat on their wives or
[14:08] SPEAKER_00: allow themselves to go very astray. They will go into pornography, they will go into places where
[14:14] SPEAKER_00: like strip clubs or these things. Why? Because they're unable to satisfy that desire.
[14:22] SPEAKER_00: What I teach is teach men how to satisfy desire and how do you satisfy the desire?
[14:27] SPEAKER_00: It's actually by bringing control to it and starting to regulate it. This is why if you look at
[14:34] SPEAKER_00: all major spiritual or religious traditions, whether it's Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism,
[14:40] SPEAKER_00: Buddhism, just the name of few, and Islamic, they all have some rules or regulations around the
[14:48] SPEAKER_00: way people express their energy. For example, in the Orthodox Jewish community, it's Friday night.
[14:54] SPEAKER_00: Friday night, it's on. They discourage masturbation and they discourage pornography. Why?
[15:01] SPEAKER_00: It's not because they're trying to limit your pleasure. But what they're saying is that if you don't
[15:06] SPEAKER_00: get that energy contained and it is, it's creative power. This is what Napoleon Hill was teaching us.
[15:14] SPEAKER_00: It's creative power. It's motivation. It's fuel. It's nature outside, you know. If you are as a man
[15:22] SPEAKER_00: depleting that through yourself, pornography, however you're doing it in all kinds of ways,
[15:29] SPEAKER_00: then you're not actually containing your most basic motivation and drive. But if you allow it to
[15:34] SPEAKER_00: build in you, so as the Orthodox Jews, they allow that energy to build throughout the week.
[15:40] SPEAKER_00: Well, at the end of the week, first of all, they have a what I'm going to call a natural or healthy
[15:45] SPEAKER_00: expression, which is real sex with their partner, you know, in what's supposed to be a loving
[15:53] SPEAKER_02: intimate way, contrast sex. Okay. So I love it. And I do. I just I'm leaning in and I'm feeling so
[16:03] SPEAKER_02: proud of myself and I invited you onto this show. This is a sad. This is an important conversation.
[16:09] SPEAKER_02: This is the cockpit your dad never had with you conversation. And I love it. And because we want
[16:16] SPEAKER_02: to bring success to entrepreneurs, as we go, so I have one question that I want you to spend 60
[16:21] SPEAKER_02: seconds answering because then I want to bridge it to, okay, tell me about your business around
[16:27] SPEAKER_02: this. So why has this triggered you as something that you want to passionately pursue? What was
[16:33] SPEAKER_02: the ah-ha moment you said, I got to I got to help people with that space.
[16:39] SPEAKER_00: Okay, I was going on in my own business kept going up to like, you know,
[16:43] SPEAKER_00: hitting certain income levels couldn't get past it couldn't get past it no matter what I did,
[16:48] SPEAKER_00: different model, different coach, different program couldn't get past it. I was like, why? I know
[16:52] SPEAKER_00: it's a block. And because I've studied all of these different sort of esoteric and personal
[16:57] SPEAKER_00: development, the ways of transforming people's belief systems. And I was like, I don't feel
[17:02] SPEAKER_00: as my belief system is something else. And so that's when I go into the world of energy. And then
[17:07] SPEAKER_00: I went right back to the my humble beginnings of thinking grow rich and Napoleon Hill and says,
[17:12] SPEAKER_00: what about this sex thing? Now my knowledge in the esoteric traditions also gave me more
[17:19] SPEAKER_00: knowledge to go. I believe that's it because at that point I was watching lots of porn. I was
[17:24] SPEAKER_00: jerking off. I was ejaculating every day. I was stiving sex with my wife, but it wasn't very
[17:29] SPEAKER_00: connected in that way because I was all over the place, right? And so in that sense, I was like,
[17:35] SPEAKER_00: I bet you this has something to do with the fact that I can't take it up to the next level. And I
[17:40] SPEAKER_00: continue to track people at higher levels. So, long story short, I hired a coach who specifically
[17:47] SPEAKER_00: taught Patrick sex and what he called sexual kung fu, kung fu meaning discipline around your
[17:53] SPEAKER_00: sexual energy. And he taught a system of discipline, sexual energy through meditations and different
[18:00] SPEAKER_00: practices, breathwork stretching to retrain our bodies as men to stay away from porn and take all
[18:07] SPEAKER_00: that motivation and express it in our businesses and in our lives in our relationships. This
[18:13] SPEAKER_00: tremendously improved my life both in and outside the bedroom. Once I gave up all of that, you know,
[18:19] SPEAKER_00: all of that like like porn and masturbating and ejaculating unnecessarily, I realized two things.
[18:26] SPEAKER_00: I had a tremendous amounts of energy and clarity of mind. And second, my hunger, my desire and my
[18:33] SPEAKER_00: courage went through the roof. Now I was like, oh man, I'm going to make it. I'm going to do big
[18:39] SPEAKER_00: things. And I have courage. Here's I'm just going to quickly say, I know this is a longer one minute
[18:44] SPEAKER_00: answer, but I want to bring attention to another group of people who know this secret. Boxers,
[18:50] SPEAKER_00: Muhammad Ali would not have sex or ejaculate six weeks before a fight so that he was hungry and
[18:57] SPEAKER_00: his desire and his masculinity was charged up. Mike Tyson went celibate for five years because he
[19:05] SPEAKER_00: wanted to be heavyweight champion of the world. And he knew that all the greatest fighters did this.
[19:11] SPEAKER_00: Okay, outside of that Winston Churchill, Mahatma Gandhi in the political realm, Mahatma
[19:16] SPEAKER_00: when they asked Winston Churchill, why are you so successful? You basically spent your life
[19:22] SPEAKER_00: running a country and doing all these amazing things and you know what his answer was? He said,
[19:27] SPEAKER_00: I have a wife and I don't chase women. He said, while everybody else on the hill is chasing women,
[19:34] SPEAKER_00: I'm running the country. He said so I'm so that was his answer. Mahatma Gandhi, after 36,
[19:42] SPEAKER_00: his story is really interesting because there's a lot of controversy around his sexual practices.
[19:47] SPEAKER_00: But at the age of 36, he was still married, but he said he's going to become celibate and he
[19:53] SPEAKER_00: wrote letters and information to his people all around him and he said it is what gives me the power
[19:59] SPEAKER_00: is my celibacy. It is my not distracted. Now I'll give you a few more. Steve Jobs,
[20:07] SPEAKER_00: his partner, a tested, documented, said that Steve Jobs would pull out during sex, meaning he
[20:14] SPEAKER_00: would have non-adjacpatory sex, which is some of the things that I teach. I said, so that and he
[20:19] SPEAKER_00: would tell his partner, I don't ejaculate because I need that urge, I need that power for my
[20:26] SPEAKER_00: business, for my creativity and my wealth. And I can go on and on, Kanye West 50 said, stink,
[20:33] SPEAKER_00: you're talking about. Then you can go into Biblical times, King Solomon, the Yellow Emperor.
[20:38] SPEAKER_00: This is a well-known secret and the elites also, now I'm going to go, there's a bit conspiracy
[20:44] SPEAKER_00: theorist, right? But just know that what, just ask yourself this question, why are power for people
[20:50] SPEAKER_00: always caught up in some sexual scandal? Because the two go hand in hand. And if you know how to use
[20:58] SPEAKER_00: it consciously, it will take everything you do to the next level because it will literally take
[21:03] SPEAKER_00: your awareness and self-control and vibration to the next level. You will notice your thoughts
[21:09] SPEAKER_00: are of a whole different quality when you learn to stay above sexual desire, at least for some
[21:16] SPEAKER_00: sustained period. I said, I'm not above sex, but I practice what's called semen retention,
[21:21] SPEAKER_02: which brings me to my business. I know some of you, you know, I, again, I got a great brother
[21:29] SPEAKER_02: with you, man. I love you to death. And this is one of the reasons too. You don't shy away from
[21:34] SPEAKER_02: conversation and particularly conversation that can help people. And ladies and gentlemen,
[21:39] SPEAKER_02: that's what I want you to do. Really embrace and love what's going on here is this,
[21:44] SPEAKER_02: is this is very much driven based on experience, and passion based on credibility,
[21:51] SPEAKER_02: this conversation. And I'm going to tell you what has happened in Nick is that people are now
[21:56] SPEAKER_02: leaning in because you've done a good job getting us to where we are right now in this conversation.
[22:01] SPEAKER_02: Now brother, talk to us about your business around.
[22:05] SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I want to, I want to, you got to explain like you got to understand like semen retention.
[22:10] SPEAKER_00: First of all, from a branding perspective, just tell me that didn't catch your attention.
[22:16] SPEAKER_00: Yes. This guy does what? See, they caught the world's attention because I ran in the last election.
[22:24] SPEAKER_00: And some of the media got a hold of my business and they blasted over and it went viral all
[22:29] SPEAKER_00: around the world that this candidate would once men not to ejaculate. Member of the man running
[22:37] SPEAKER_00: for member of parliament wants people not to ejaculate. It was hilarious. And it was funny to see
[22:43] SPEAKER_00: the reactions. And it also gave me more conviction because I realized how much people don't know about sex.
[22:50] SPEAKER_00: Like they just don't. So if someone says, you know, Nicola or Nick, Nicholas, whatever you call me,
[22:56] SPEAKER_00: what do you do? I say, well, I'm a sex guru. I teach men specifically. I teach couples too,
[23:04] SPEAKER_00: but men specifically, I, my expertise is more in the male side of it. I said, I teach men to have
[23:11] SPEAKER_00: conscious sexuality. And I'm the general of the semen retention army. And that always gets them,
[23:17] SPEAKER_00: right? I'm like, you're the general this yet. I said, so it's like being a chef, right?
[23:22] SPEAKER_00: You guess what? You're chef. Yeah. Yeah. I'm the general of the semen retention army. So let me
[23:27] SPEAKER_00: explain the semen retention army. Semen retention doesn't mean you never ejaculate again for every guy
[23:33] SPEAKER_00: who's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what's going on? Right? What it does is it means that you stop ejaculating
[23:38] SPEAKER_00: towards pornography and masturbation. And you even learn to have non-ajacatory sex and experience
[23:45] SPEAKER_00: really great, amazing, intimate connected sex. This is the, it will be the most satisfying sex
[23:52] SPEAKER_00: you ever have. And you will feel so powerful as a man because what a lot of people don't realize,
[23:59] SPEAKER_00: and especially in this over sexualized world is that like pornography, especially does real bad
[24:04] SPEAKER_00: wiring for our brain. The way we approach sex is, is quite like raw, very animalistic. Like,
[24:12] SPEAKER_00: pornography really plays on that aspect, totally physical. But when I say conscious sexuality,
[24:18] SPEAKER_00: you're bringing mindfulness into it. You're bringing breath. You're bringing your heart into it.
[24:22] SPEAKER_00: You're learning actually how to feel into yourself and into your partner in a whole different way
[24:29] SPEAKER_00: where the sex is so satisfying, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. And it
[24:36] SPEAKER_00: truly satisfies that desire. And as any man knows, when that desire, like think about that energy,
[24:43] SPEAKER_00: it could be two o'clock in the morning. You're dead tired. You just dealt with stress all day at
[24:48] SPEAKER_00: your business. You know, canceled clients, blah, blah, blah, two thirty in the morning. The
[24:54] SPEAKER_00: prospect for sex is available. You know, some Tinder date says, yeah, come over. You're, you're pulling
[25:01] SPEAKER_00: the knoll knight or you know, you're driving right across town. You know, you got energy for days,
[25:06] SPEAKER_00: right? Think about the what the energy when you're aroused, how much energy and how
[25:12] SPEAKER_00: the word turned on is important here. Not only are you turned on sexually, but actually your whole
[25:19] SPEAKER_00: body is turned on. Your body is preparing for its most basic activity. And in then sense, it's
[25:25] SPEAKER_00: secreting hormones. It's circulating your blood and it's getting all. And if you think of yourself as
[25:31] SPEAKER_00: an electric circuit, it is turning you want. It is charging you and literally charging your frequency.
[25:38] SPEAKER_00: So here's what happens when a man learns how to have non-ajectatory sex. Not only does he have more
[25:43] SPEAKER_00: deep and intimate sex, the sex ends when when she's done or your partner in a gay relationship is
[25:50] SPEAKER_00: done. And I work with both gay and straight men. So the part that what meaning you, you come from a
[25:57] SPEAKER_00: spirit of giving in the bedroom, it really you're, you're first of all, and I only know it from
[26:03] SPEAKER_00: up from a, from a, a straight relationship. So I can only experience, she'll be talking about it
[26:08] SPEAKER_00: from there. And my wife has done interviews on the subject. She'll tell you and just like the
[26:13] SPEAKER_00: men that work with me inside the army, their wives love this. It's weird at first because they're like,
[26:19] SPEAKER_00: whoa, whoa, whoa, this is strange. This is different. But once they get a few sessions in, where they
[26:24] SPEAKER_00: have non-ajectatory sex and she recognizes how, how it changes the quality of lover he is
[26:31] SPEAKER_00: and the intimacy. First of all, she wants more sex because she's now enjoying it. Here's a quick
[26:38] SPEAKER_00: stat. 5% of men, okay, sorry, the average man lasts less than 5%, less than 5 minutes in the bedroom
[26:46] SPEAKER_00: after he enters his partner. When it takes the average woman at least 20 minutes to get into a
[26:51] SPEAKER_00: state before orgasm is possible. More men are experiencing premature ejaculation or being a
[26:57] SPEAKER_00: quick shooter or erectile dysfunction now than ever before. And dissatisfaction in the, in the bedroom
[27:04] SPEAKER_02: is up like never before. One of the, okay, so I'm going to pause you there for just a quick second
[27:08] SPEAKER_02: because doesn't the polly inhale also talk about getting yourself a good partner? Yes, one of the
[27:15] SPEAKER_00: chapters, I don't know which one. Yes. So here's a business. Here's, here's why is a business owner,
[27:21] SPEAKER_00: especially you should be interested in this. If you are dissatisfied in your sex life and in your
[27:25] SPEAKER_00: marriage and in your relationship and you're not at home, you will bring that dissatisfaction into
[27:31] SPEAKER_00: your business. The reason why Napoleon Hill says that your relationship is part of your success
[27:36] SPEAKER_00: plan is because if you're so distracted by the negativity in your relationship or your part,
[27:43] SPEAKER_00: you don't know how to get your partner to support you or to indulge in risk or indulge in
[27:48] SPEAKER_00: pleasure and all of this stuff and buy into you as a leader as someone who can make it happen.
[27:55] SPEAKER_00: If your partner is, you don't know how to get that or create that, then that is going to be a
[28:01] SPEAKER_00: negative energy and a, and a pain point. It's going to be a resistance towards your expansion.
[28:07] SPEAKER_00: And many men and many entrepreneurs know exactly what I'm talking about right now. It's the uns...
[28:13] SPEAKER_00: You've listed some of them. You've listed some already amazing. I've been talking to entrepreneurs for
[28:17] SPEAKER_00: a decade and training entrepreneurs for a decade and I'll tell you it's the unspoken conversation.
[28:24] SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, your business, your strategy, marketing. Tell me what your home life is like.
[28:29] SPEAKER_00: Tell me are you satisfied there? Because if you're not, I promise you you will find ways to
[28:35] SPEAKER_00: to find excitement and challenge in other ways and it will be negative for your business. You will
[28:42] SPEAKER_00: self-sabotage again. The biggest examples we could think of, Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods,
[28:49] SPEAKER_00: look at they were so unsatisfied. They did not know how to satisfy themselves in that regard
[28:54] SPEAKER_00: and eventually it led to their empires. We've seen empires fall because of this.
[29:00] SPEAKER_00: Okay. Now, go ahead. Go ahead. Let me ask you, let me ask you this question.
[29:06] SPEAKER_02: And I think we need to have a part two of this conversation.
[29:08] SPEAKER_02: It's a lot to cover. Yeah, yeah. In real, but you've done an amazing job and I really mean that
[29:14] SPEAKER_02: you've done an amazing job because when I went into this conversation, ladies and gentlemen,
[29:18] SPEAKER_02: I said, Nick, you get out, me. I'm like, I'm going to navigate this. I trust you. I understand,
[29:26] SPEAKER_02: not at the level. I didn't explain, understand it as much as I do now, but it was like, I trust you,
[29:32] SPEAKER_02: dude. And you're so insurven people and bringing them at a new level and so on. So talk to me about
[29:37] SPEAKER_02: this piece from the business side of it. Okay. How did you begin to build the brand of the army,
[29:45] SPEAKER_02: the army of Steven Retention? So we talk a lot of a cash flow and leadership and you know,
[29:53] SPEAKER_02: and get the right distribution systems in place and so that yours do is a brand journey.
[30:01] SPEAKER_02: Pure and simple. Yeah. Yeah. Just talk about building the brand that's based on a topic that
[30:07] SPEAKER_02: really, we're once you talk about, but they don't really want to talk about it. Yeah. So first of all,
[30:12] SPEAKER_00: the energy of your brand or my brand is that this is so much more than a business. This is a
[30:20] SPEAKER_00: movement. Yeah. A business is an offshoot of what I do. What I do is I transform people's lives
[30:29] SPEAKER_00: by transforming their relationship with sex sexuality and learning how the art of sex transmutation.
[30:35] SPEAKER_00: Okay. That's what I do. Now I have a business around that mission. So the first thing I think
[30:41] SPEAKER_00: it's always important that if you want to build something that's going to zag instead of zig or
[30:46] SPEAKER_00: it's going to go, it's going to catch people's attention is you have to know what is your, what is
[30:52] SPEAKER_00: the energy? What how are you, what problem are you solving? What, what, how are you changing the
[30:57] SPEAKER_00: world? What impact are you having? What legacy are you leaving? Once you know that, then you can be
[31:03] SPEAKER_00: like, okay, this has to drive my messaging. Now I knew that this is going to be a difficult journey
[31:09] SPEAKER_00: because I am basically shifting sex as a culture. I'm challenging sex as a culture. I'm saying,
[31:16] SPEAKER_00: hold on. Do you really want your kids growing up in a world where pornography is what's teaching
[31:23] SPEAKER_00: them about sexuality? Is that what you want? Are you aware that pornography is the number one
[31:29] SPEAKER_00: consumed thing on the internet? Right? So this is what you got to get. Then, so for me, this is a
[31:37] SPEAKER_00: movement. So now I'm like, great. Now I'm a trainer. My background before teaching this was in
[31:42] SPEAKER_00: sales training and working with entrepreneurs. That's why I know entrepreneurship, right?
[31:46] SPEAKER_00: Yeah, very well. You know well. Yeah. And so I said, okay, I'm going to bring my trainer's mindset
[31:52] SPEAKER_00: to the world of conscious sexuality. And so what I did is I designed using all the techniques and
[31:59] SPEAKER_00: the things that I learned and you know, the crap that was just crap. And I broke down and I created
[32:05] SPEAKER_00: a training program. And I called it sexual alchemy, which is the alchemy of sex or the transmutation
[32:11] SPEAKER_00: of sex. And so I launched this program. And boom, I started selling programs. And I mean,
[32:18] SPEAKER_00: and started making money. And so if you guys started hiring me to work with them one on one,
[32:24] SPEAKER_00: what I realized though was that so many guys, almost 80% of the guys were buying the program.
[32:33] SPEAKER_00: But they weren't completing it or finishing it. And I remember that stat about 94% of personal
[32:39] SPEAKER_00: development or business development books that are bought are never read. And I said,
[32:46] SPEAKER_00: well, I don't know, they I guess it's not a PG, but I said some choice words to myself and said,
[32:51] SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to allow that to happen. I'm not going to put out something. I'm because it's a
[32:56] SPEAKER_00: mission first. Yeah. These guys have to finish the program so that they get the result. And from a
[33:02] SPEAKER_00: business perspective, I'm like, I'm going to need third party validation. Totally, totally,
[33:07] SPEAKER_00: totally, totally, for people to be like, is this for real, right? So I'm going to need my early
[33:12] SPEAKER_00: adopters to really get it done. So I that's when I was like, and I just like to say to me,
[33:18] SPEAKER_00: the army was an analogy of a place where you go to get focused, to get disciplined, and to get on
[33:26] SPEAKER_00: tasks to stop messing around with your life and take yourself to the next level, taking your
[33:33] SPEAKER_00: results by taking yourself to the next level. The way to the next income bracket, the way to the
[33:39] SPEAKER_00: next level up is you have to level up. And so I love that analogy of the army. And so I was like,
[33:48] SPEAKER_00: I'm going to create a training system. We're not only am I going to train guys on the techniques and
[33:54] SPEAKER_00: the practices and the breath work and all these cool techniques so they become powerhouses,
[33:58] SPEAKER_00: both in and outside the bedroom, but I'm going to hold their feet to their fire. So the training
[34:03] SPEAKER_00: program is a it's a one, it takes about six weeks to 90 days to learn all the practices and the
[34:09] SPEAKER_00: techniques. And then, but it's a year-long commitment to work with me in the training program,
[34:15] SPEAKER_00: because I hold you accountable daily accountability on your pornography, masturbation, and practice habits
[34:24] SPEAKER_00: that you establish. It's a it's a habit development routine. And I don't buy into this 30 days,
[34:31] SPEAKER_00: 60 days, 90 no, one year minimum. I'm come on. Are we building a real business or you just messing
[34:40] SPEAKER_00: around? If you're messing around and go do the 30-day program, if you're for real, you come work with
[34:45] SPEAKER_00: me and you do the year program and we build real habits so that at the end of the year, you never
[34:51] SPEAKER_00: need me again. You've got your your your your your vices under control or out of your life. And you're
[34:58] SPEAKER_00: you've developed such good positive habits through these practices of breathwork and meditation
[35:03] SPEAKER_00: and learning to work and focus the mind intensely, where you will notice the direct measurable
[35:10] SPEAKER_00: impact into the sales and income and leadership that you bring to the table. And so it's a year-long
[35:17] SPEAKER_00: program with daily accountability through a track. Okay, so I'm going to pause you there.
[35:22] SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I'm getting into that. Yeah, no, it's all good. It's all good. It's all good. This is not because
[35:27] SPEAKER_02: you have you have followed my every direction on how I wanted this conversation to go. So
[35:33] SPEAKER_02: the serves a great value. People are laying in and out and say, okay, how do you get somebody to
[35:38] SPEAKER_00: commit to a year? Yeah. Well, okay, so so the first step is basically you know like if you're
[35:47] SPEAKER_00: listening to this and you're going, man, I think this guy is hitting on something I need.
[35:51] SPEAKER_00: I want to either have better intimacy or my relationship or I want to improve my own sexual
[35:58] SPEAKER_00: experiences. Maybe I'm bored with my sex life. I don't know how to be satisfied in it or I'm
[36:04] SPEAKER_00: sexually nervous. A lot of guys work with me. Some guys work with me. Yeah, that that have anxiety
[36:09] SPEAKER_00: around sex and performance. So that's one aspect. You're you're you're hearing that and go, okay,
[36:15] SPEAKER_00: he can help me there or you're you're in a you're in a business. You're a man. Yeah, I'm sorry,
[36:21] SPEAKER_00: but I just I work with men. Yeah, you're the one with niche marketing. No, no, that's right. Yeah,
[36:26] SPEAKER_00: well, this practice is specific for men. See me retention. I'm sorry, it's just what it is.
[36:34] SPEAKER_00: So or you work, you just you you recognize that yes, this is distracting me. This is a problem or
[36:42] SPEAKER_00: you're like, yes, I'm curious about being able to take my own energy and clarity of mind
[36:48] SPEAKER_00: and vibration to a new level. So it's either one of those two. That's generally the two guys that
[36:55] SPEAKER_00: are working, right? Then you you come and we have a conversation before any commitment where I
[37:01] SPEAKER_00: lay out the program. We lay out the goals. We talk about what the challenges are and then you
[37:06] SPEAKER_00: decide, okay, this is for me. And then you come in, there's a there's a price. Yeah, oh,
[37:13] SPEAKER_00: is that like, oh, yeah. So then you either pay, yeah, you're either paying a couple grand for a
[37:17] SPEAKER_00: year long commitment. Yeah, to work with me or to work with me through the similar retention
[37:23] SPEAKER_00: army. Yep, we've done through groups or you're paying five grand and this is all US pricing,
[37:28] SPEAKER_00: by the way, you're paying five grand to work with me one on one for three months and then accountability
[37:34] SPEAKER_00: for the year. So for guys who want to work with me one on one, they pay a bit more. Yeah, so
[37:39] SPEAKER_02: what I love what's happening here, ladies and gentlemen, is he is testing their commitment.
[37:47] SPEAKER_02: And some of you, you know, what's crazy strategy? I mean, Tony Robbins, you know, church,
[37:52] SPEAKER_02: $100,000 a year. No, people church. I'm cheap. I'm giving you, but what I'm giving, I'm cheap,
[38:00] SPEAKER_01: you're telling you this will be so transformative. So like it will blow your mind. Get in now.
[38:06] SPEAKER_02: But the point is is that he that's how he's getting the commitment, ladies and gentlemen,
[38:10] SPEAKER_02: and it's not just by the money. It's about this is the value you're going to get. These
[38:15] SPEAKER_02: deliverables you're going to get, do you want to sign up for a journey? Or do you want to just sign
[38:20] SPEAKER_02: up for a band-aid? And you had really done that, Nick. And you know, I do unfortunately get in this
[38:28] SPEAKER_02: conversation. Yeah, yeah. I knew it would go longer. Ladies and gentlemen, I just want to recap
[38:35] SPEAKER_02: on what's just happened with the conversation with Nick LaCoula. One is obviously what he did
[38:43] SPEAKER_02: is show you that credibility comes from experience. It comes from delivering. It comes from passion.
[38:50] SPEAKER_02: It comes on value. But overall, it comes on mission. And that's what you've shown today, Nick,
[38:57] SPEAKER_02: is you have built something a business and I got to think you got a pretty successful business
[39:04] SPEAKER_00: happening right now. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Like way more than even like the cement retention army
[39:10] SPEAKER_00: hasn't been around a year yet. We have over 40 guys right now in the army in the combination of
[39:17] SPEAKER_00: the one on one program with me or working or working within the thing. And it's been, I think
[39:23] SPEAKER_00: it's been about eight or nine months when we're recording this. So this is the first year of the
[39:27] SPEAKER_00: army. So we're still in the early adopter phase and everything. But I've done programs before. So I
[39:32] SPEAKER_00: knew how to get it going. And I was surprised even at the uptake because I know it's an interesting
[39:38] SPEAKER_00: topic. It's not a usual thing. So I mean it for the long haul to really educate the world
[39:45] SPEAKER_00: on conscious sexuality and how important it is that we understand our sexuality and how it impacts
[39:52] SPEAKER_00: the entire entire life, especially entrepreneurs and business owners who want to be successful.
[39:58] SPEAKER_00: This is the secret sauce. This is what's going to take you out of the pack and give you
[40:03] SPEAKER_00: an edge, a secret edge that when you're sitting there in a sales meeting and you know how to
[40:10] SPEAKER_00: charge yourself up, this is going to give you a level of charisma, confidence and energy that
[40:16] SPEAKER_00: people are going to be like, oh man, we got to be in business with this person because they're
[40:20] SPEAKER_02: an expansive. I love that. It's not we got to hang out with this person. We have to be
[40:26] SPEAKER_02: entrepreneurs, employees, suppliers are all saying that because they want to be part of the journey.
[40:33] SPEAKER_02: Nick, how do people get in touch with you, man? What you're what you go to if I said, I need to
[40:39] SPEAKER_00: know how to get a hold of this man. Yeah, best thing to do is go to NikulaDaz.com because you can
[40:45] SPEAKER_00: send me a direct message from there. You can connect with all my social media from there.
[40:50] SPEAKER_00: If you're specifically interested in what did Napoleon Hill exactly say, if you go to my
[40:56] SPEAKER_00: website and go to my YouTube channel from my website and the very first the channel video,
[41:01] SPEAKER_00: actually I give you 15 quotes from the Napoleon Hill's book to back up everything I'm saying from
[41:07] SPEAKER_00: that book and then there's a ton of information to dive deep for my analytical thinkers.
[41:12] SPEAKER_00: But if you already know this is some of you already know, you've already signed up in your head
[41:17] SPEAKER_00: because you already know, oh my God, yeah, yeah, I need this because I know this is what's holding me back.
[41:24] SPEAKER_02: Entrepreneur mission, mission, mission, I could say missionary. Well, yeah, all kinds of mission.
[41:32] SPEAKER_02: We got to teach you all kinds of mission. Yeah, a general good friend and a
[41:38] SPEAKER_02: conscious sexuality, conscious heart also that comes from this man. I highly recommend you
[41:43] SPEAKER_02: hang out with him. Nick, keep being awesome, dude. I gotta scoot up myself. You'll make a little
[41:49] SPEAKER_02: bit of homework so we can put this to production. We'll be in touch afterwards anyway.
[41:53] SPEAKER_00: Please, that was good. I appreciate you, brother. Talk to you later. Cheers.